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    Technology Ruined Me As A Parent

    Boy with ball

    Technology. It’s a lovely thing because it helps us in so many ways nowadays. It can also be a terrible thing. It distracts you, consumes you, and steals time from you. If you don’t eventually come to a moment of realization, it could cause you to regret not being present for the most cherished seasons of life.

    I thank God that he showed me when he did, although I still feel that for Isaiah’s first year I failed him as a mother. This all started at Isaiah’s 15 month check up. The doctor was concerned that he wasn’t saying any meaningful words at that point (at 15 months babies are expected to say 3 words and know what they are saying.) She was also concerned at the fact that he wasn’t walking yet.

    I remember leaving that appointment in tears. I was overwhelmed and mad at myself. I started to think of what might be responsible for the delays.

     

    Did I give Isaiah too much TV time?

    Was it because I didn’t breastfeed longer than 2 months?

    Was it because I dealt with PPD for Isaiah’s first year of life?

     

    I kept overthinking and blaming myself. But still, I didn’t want to accept it as it was. I wanted to improve myself as a mother… as a person in general. I decided I needed to put aside my worries and do everything in my power to help Isaiah get to where he’s supposed to be.

    The first thing I did was cut tv time down.

    About the time Isaiah should have been developing, I was pregnant with Annabelle and often sick, so I’m guilty of putting Isaiah in front of the TV all the time to keep him occupied. Even after I felt better, TV became such a normal thing in our house that it was always on.  Isaiah learned to ignore us, and have more interest in the tv instead of his real life surroundings. I cut down tv time to 30 minutes a day. Within a week Isaiah was making better eye contact, was becoming more social and interacting with us more, and playing with his toys.

    Next came cutting out phone time for myself.

    In the moment, I never realized how much of my time was spent on my phone screen. Working on social networks is an income for me, but there should have been boundaries. When I’m on my phone I am distracted, mute, and unaware to what is around me. This tells my son my phone is more important than what’s around, and sets a horrible example as he learns how to interact with the world.

    How is he supposed to know what good eye contact is? How is he supposed to know how to conversate? How is he supposed to interact when he has nothing to learn from?

    After cutting out phone time around him I truly saw a difference in him interacting with us. But something that really stuck out to me was how he changed emotionally. He became more loving and less frustrated. Why? Because he got the attention he should have gotten in the first place, and wasn’t met with the blank wall that was me on my phone.

    I needed to make an intentional effort to socialize.

    As a stay at home mom, it’s easy to be isolated within the walls of your home. Some other things we did for Isaiah was signing him up for speech therapy twice a week for 30 minutes, having him play with kids that are around his age, bringing him outside more, and exposing him to different settings, toys, and activities on a daily basis.

    Today Isaiah is now 20 months old. After 2 months of speech therapy and the other changes, Isaiah now knows how to say about 10 words along with the expected gibberish. He also shows interest in wanting to learn and repeat things.

    I know I’m not the only parent out there doing this.

    I am willing to admit to my mistakes and I want to bring this harsh truth to light so we don’t raise distracted kids… So we show them how to express themselves… So we show them how to communicate. If you really truly think about it, it’s incredibly sad how much distracting technology comes into play in our daily lives.

    Something I really battle with is living in the moment. I’m a photographer at heart so I have to have photos of everything. I love that I can look back on moments and frame them in my home. BUT, what is that picture worth if you don’t remember living it. All you remember is trying to get the perfect angle, the perfect lighting, trying to look your best…

    Technology made me less confident.

    There are also times where you find yourself comparing your life with others because of the highlight reels you see on their feeds where everything looks perfect. It took me a while to realize but no one is as perfect as their facebook or instagram would have you believe. That is another big problem we have with technology: it destroys our confidence and eventually cripples our self worth… And when I think of it like that it makes me wish that times were simpler. But it’s 2018 and technology is only going to be more and more embedded in our everyday lives, so we need to teach ourselves balance.

    This generation is distracted more than ever, and now that we’re becoming parents. I’m worried to see what our children will grow up like if we continue this way. We can be the change if we each choose to for ourselves. Let’s do it for our kids, because they are worth it…so worth it.

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    Hospital Bag Necessities

    Pregnant Woman

    Last pregnancy I was headed in to be induced. My plan was to deliver vaginally but after 12 hours of a failed induction I had to get an emergency c-section. This time around we scheduled a c-section so I know what to expect and have a good idea at what I need. Most of what I’m going to list are great for both moms who will deliver naturally and by c-section. Let me start off by saying that between your needs, your husband’s needs and your baby’s needs you’ll probably have more than one “hospital bag” (depending on how big your bag is). Lol.

    I received this roomy and cute diaper bag from Jujube. They have a huge selection of diaper bags with different styles, colors, and uses. I got the Be Prepared Diaper Bag (The Queen of The Nile) style. This one is perfect for moms who have two little ones. The room, pockets, and convenience of this bag will blow your mind. I also love that this diaper bag is 100% washable. You can literally throw it in the washer and have it as shiny and new as the first time you used it!

    What I’m Packing For Myself:

    • A Long and Soft Robe. This was a huge use at my last stay because not only was I comfortable but I had something easy to slip on while doing my daily walks to the nursery or whenever I had visitors.
    • Fluffy Socks With Grips. These work well because hospital floors are so cold and slippery. Plus Fluffy socks are always fun!
    • Nursing Gowns. I actually never packed these the first time around but I was gifted them at the hospital by family. They are a total life saver for breastfeeding moms. I had the gowns that clip and unclip making it easy for breastfeeding time.
    • C-Section Waist Band. I know that is one thing I needed last time. Since my wound was so sensitive to touch this is a must because it helps relieve pressure of your clothing on your wound.
    • Breast Pads. When your milk finally comes in it comes in full force…literally. lol. Aside from it being uncomfortable the leaking part was always such an annoyance. Slipping breast pads into my bra or nursing gown helped SO much and It made for less laundry!
    • Manual Breast Pump. Do not waste the space of bringing in your huge breast pump to the hospital! Your milk probably won’t come in until a day or two after delivering. I was given a manual breast pump at the hospital and it helped so much when I was engourged. I also got a head start on saving my breast milk! These things are easy, small, and handy at your short hospital stay!
    • Feeding and Poop Log. Of course for the baby! lol. I got myself one of these last time and it was such a relief having it. The nurses are hardcore about keeping a log of when your baby poops, pees, and eats. It’s also helpful for yourself so you have an idea of when to you will feed the your baby next and which breast to use. This goes on past the hospital stay. I used my log for 2 months last time.
    • Chapstick. Whether you’re pushing the baby out naturally or laying on the operation table your lips will end up dry either way! I was so happy to pack chapstick last time because I couldn’t tell you the amount of times I used it!
    • Toiletries. I brought my own last time and was so glad I did. The hospital shampoo and conditioner is very watered down so it was nice to have my own. I also brought my own tooth brush, toothpaste, face wash, deodorant, and makeup!
    • 1-2 Outfits. One outfit just incase you take family photos at the hospital and a comfortable outfit for the day you leave! I will be bringing high wasted leggings so it won’t be uncomfortable with my C- Section wound.
    • Your Favorite Snacks. Because let’s face it hospital food is never the best. lol. I packed some of my favorite granola bars, candy, crackers, and some drinks! (this also is nice for when your husband stays too!)
    • Camera. I mean your phone could work too but I’m a photographer at heart so I will be bringing my camera to capture some special newborn moments.
    • iPad. This was nice because my husband and I were able to watch some shows, and play some games to make time go by.

    What I’m Packing For The Baby:

    • Pacifiers. The hospital will provide you with them but I didn’t care for the kind they offered with Isaiah. So this time I am bringing my own.
    • Pamper’s Sensitive Wipes. The hospital we delivered at didn’t have actual baby wipes. Just small cloths that you would have to wet before using. This time we are packing wipes to save us the time and hassle. Pamper’s sensitive wipes are all we ever used with Isaiah because he has sensitive skin. We will be using the same for Annabelle.
    • Dr.Smith’s Diaper Spray. Oh my goodness was this the best thing ever once we discovered it! The hospital doesn’t have actual diaper cream from what I can remember and when we did use diaper cream it was always such a mess. This diaper spray leaves your hands clean and your baby’s butt soft and refreshed! I totally recommend this for any mom out there!
    • Hand Sanitizer Wipes. These are convenient and easy for when you have guests! It’s always so nerve wracking when someone else holds your new fragile baby. You want to ask to see if those are clean clothes they are wearing and if they took a shower that day, you want them to load up on hand sanitizer..but trust me as long as your baby isn’t kissed or touched without clean hands it will be fine:) These wipes fit into any pocket and are easy to hand out!
    • Car Seat Carrier. This is an obvious one but just remember to really understand how it works and how your baby needs to be strapped in. The hospital is not allowed to tell you anything when it comes to putting your baby in a carrier/carseat.
    • Swaddles. Oh how I wished I had one before the first few weeks of having Isaiah. The nurses make it look so easy when they swaddle up your baby. Let me tell you..it most certainly is not! lol. My husband and I always failed at it. Isaiah loved to be tightly swaddled as do most newborns. After purchasing a swaddle we were able to easily swaddle up Isaiah!
    • 1-2 Outfits. If you plan on having the hospital photographer take photos your baby will have a cute outfit on in the photos. Also, don’t forget a going home outfit suited right for the weather. Annabelle is a winter baby so we will have to bring a warm onesie, blanket, hat, mittens,and a carseat cover!

    What I’m Packing For The Husband:

    • Air Mattress. We thought the hospital chair (that turned into a bed) would be ok but it made for a rough stay for my husband. He had some serious back issues going on so this time we are bringing a small air mattress to make it easier on him.
    • Snacks and Energy Drinks. As I stated above for what I was packing myself, same goes for my husband! Throw in some of his favorite snacks and drinks..especially energy drinks because those will be needed. lol.
    • Comfortable Clothes. Just to make the stay more relaxing. It’s important for your husband to be comfortable as well.
    • Toiletries. Because obviously just like you, he will be needing some body care as well! lol.
    • iPad/ Laptop. Perfect for playing games, and watching tv when bored.
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    Say Bye Bye to Mama Problems With Buy Buy Baby

    Shopping at BuyBuy Baby

    [This post is in partnership with BuyBuy Baby Inc, a brand that I love. All opinions here are my own.]

    I cannot tell you enough how much I love Buy Buy Baby! After having Isaiah I’ve been there probably a hundred times to pick up our baby needs and wants! Now that Annabelle is due in less than a month I know what I need to stock up on in order to have a relaxed transition at home. Buy Buy baby has an endless amount of products to fit all your needs. Out of all the baby stores I went to they offer the best service, prices, and products which is why I am such a frequent shopper there! I wanted to share with you a few items I got to prepare for my soon to be newborn, Annabelle – also for Isaiah becoming a big brother!

    Here Are 9 of My Must-Have Finds

    1. Dr. Brown’s Bottles

    When I had Isaiah my plan was to exclusively breastfeed. We had a hard time with Isaiah latching and he wasn’t gaining enough weight. I exclusively pumped the first 2 months. He had some reflux which made our nights more stressful. When I switched over to the Dr. Brown bottles I did see a big difference. We are saving the time and frustration and starting off with those first. We stocked up on the 4oz and 8oz pink ones too! How fun!

    2. MAM Pacifiers

    The hospital gave us soothies for Isaiah. They were always a bit big for him and he eventually started to refuse them, which made it difficult to calm him. I tried many pacifiers and the only ones that he liked were the MAM pacifiers. Not to mention they have the cutest designs! I got a few for Annabelle!

    3. Aden & Anais Snap Bibs

    I stocked up on some snap bibs because no matter how many times you wash them they work like they did the first time. I have had a terrible experience with regular velcro bibs not staying attached after a few times through the laundry. Plus it helps that Aden & Anais have an adorable selection of styles for their bibs!

    4. Burt’s Bees Calming Shampoo and Lotion

    Many shampoos, soap, and lotions have dangerous chemicals in them. I feel at ease when I’m washing my babies in Burt’s Bees products. The calming shampoo and lotion has a scent that helps put them to sleep too! We stocked up on these!

    5. Chair Top High Chair

    This is going to be a lifesaver since I can use it for both Annabelle and Isaiah. It fits on almost any chair and we can bring it to Grandma’s easily with no hassle, and it’s great for road trips since it takes up little space. We got the Chicco Pocket Snack!

    6. Burt’s Bee’s Baby Mittens

    Newborns tend to scratch themselves, Isaiah did and these mittens came in handy (literally) hehe. They are also made with organic cotton, so you can feel good about these!

    7. Baby Einstein Sea Dreams Soother

    Isaiah was excited to be getting this (as you can see above)! I have heard so many great things about the Sea Dreams Soother for both babies and toddlers! We got one for both Isaiah and Annabelle to put in their cribs. It helps put them to sleep and soothes them if they wake up. When they finally wake up after nap time this will keep them busy until I get to them.

    8. Baby and Toddler Clothing

    I’m guilty of purchasing clothes for my son and daughter whenever I step foot in Buy Buy Baby. I can’t help that they have so many adorable clothes. I love all the lines there but my favorites would have to be Burt’s Bees Baby and the Jessica Simpson line! We stocked up on some spring and summer outfits for Isaiah and some needed sizes for Annabelle too.

    9. Nursing Gowns and Bras

    I honestly didn’t even know these kind of nursing gowns existed until I was gifted a few at the hospital when I gave birth to Isaiah. They were a complete lifesaver. Not only are they easy and convenient for breastfeeding but they are comfortable especially for us mamas who have had c-sections. BuyBuy Baby has a great variety of them!

    Nursing bras are another lifesaver for the breastfeeding mamas out there. They are comfortable and easy to manage. I’m also guilty of wearing my nursing bra even after I stopped breastfeeding/pumping because they were just so comfortable!

    Help Yourself With 20% Off!

    Buy Buy Baby offers great prices and on top of that when you sign up for their email mailing list they send you a 20% off coupon! Even if you aren’t a mom or expecting, this store is great when it comes to buying gifts for those who are.

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    Annabelle’s Nursery Artwork

    Pregnant woman in nursery

    Studio Q Gallery Bunnies

    How adorable are these bunny paintings we hung up in Annabelle’s nursery? Studio Q Gallery is offering my followers a discount on any purchase starting today, January 7th through Feb 28th, 2018. This will be valid on any purchase over $49. What’s awesome about Studio Q Gallery is that they have hundreds of fine art perfect for your nursery or home!

    To get the exclusive discount just visit their Etsy shop and use the code: PROMO10!

    Enjoy!

  • Mom Life

    My Acceptance of the “Mom-Bod”

    The other day I had a Facebook memory pop up from when I walked in a fashion show 6 years ago. The photo was a close up of my face. My first reaction was “wow, my face used to be that thin, I use to be that skinny?!” So after I put my son to bed I decided to look back on my modeling photos. I was looking at my photos and obsessing over them as I looked down on my swollen legs, and stretch marks on my 28 week pregnant stomach.

    After having my son in September 2016 I was 30 pounds heavier. My wedding rings no longer fit, my shirts were skin tight and I had to kiss all my pants goodbye. I do remember getting upset a few times about my body like when I went bathing suit shopping for the first time after having him, or when I would casually try to put my wedding rings back on my finger. But to be honest I never got to the point where I did the other day. I Just wanted that “18 year old” body back so desperately.

    …it was easy to forget that at the time these photos were taken, I never felt comfortable in my own skin.

    As I looked back at these photos of a young kid in high school it was easy to forget that at the time these photos were taken, I never felt comfortable in my own skin.

    I remember never feeling like my weight was good enough. I remember always thinking I was fat. I remember the struggle with my eating disorder. I remember the dentist telling me my teeth were rotting away. I remember developing stomach issues. I remember feeling so ugly and not good enough. All I wanted was more shoots and any shoot I didn’t get my body would get punished. As you Can see in the photo to the right, my body was screaming for nutrition and care.

    My senior year of high school was probably my worst year. Everyone surrounding me was being accepted into college. Everyone seemed to have their life planned out. I didn’t know what I wanted to do. All I knew how to do was model (so I told myself). So I felt the pressure to try to be the best in that. I got completely obsessed with trying to make myself look like this impossible image I made up in my mind. The image most girls strive to look like… The image most girls think is a reality.

     

    While I am thankful for the experience with modeling I’m also thankful I realized what it truly did to me. After being told my health was going downhill I eventually accepted it. So at what point in our lives are we supposed to feel comfortable in our own skin? When are we supposed to feel beautiful regardless of weight, regardless of makeup, regardless of hair? I know I don’t want to live my whole life wishing I looked differently. I don’t want to spend my life looking back at previous photos wishing I could go back to looking like that, when really, in that moment, I didn’t feel beautiful anyway.

    I have a “mom-bod” now.

    I have a “mom-bod” now. I have the c-section scar, the stretch marks, the saggy boobs, the extra flub, and now I currently am growing another human being. So I’ll have all this x2. My body carried two miracles. So yea it might not be “Model Material” but I received the most precious gifts anyone could ever receive. Heck, not only that but it brought out strength I never knew I had. I’m no longer that 18 year old girl. Outwardly I may lack what I used to have but I’ve gained so much knowledge, courage, and love through becoming a mother, and I’ll remind myself this anytime my eyes wonder of what truly matters.